Making Your Dreams A Reality

Making your dreams a reality

Hi lovelies, I hope you have all had a lovely week in the sunshine!

Last week I invited you to try out the desires exercise to see what came up for you when thinking about what you really want in life.

When you know what you really want, you can learn how to resolve issues you might have lurking inside of you whilst on the road to achieving those desires.

I truly believe that this is a healthy approach to life. Instead of focusing on what hasn’t worked in our lives so far, we focus on our desires and high-vibration emotions!

In the long run, this is more healthy and empowering as it stops us from getting stuck in the negative. It is really motivating to have a higher vision of who we can be and how we can live our lives.

If you listen to your desires, they hold the key to your self-realisation. They are like voices and urges from within, and if you listen to them and act upon them you will, in time, come back to life from the inside.

Like I mentioned last week, desires can of course be wild and materialistic! But it is fun and empowering to say yes to them.

Eventually, when we achieve one of our desires, we get to find out afterwards if that was actually what we really wanted and needed, and so the journey of looking inwards continues on.

By achieving our desires, we figure out who we really are and what we were put on this earth to do! It brings us closer to our original essence and our authentic self.

If you try to talk yourself out of the things you really want, it can make you shut down and cause sadness. It also takes the joy and aliveness out of your soul and your life.

When people try to talk themselves out of what they desire, it shuts them down and creates sadness within and cramps aliveness.

What happens when you talk yourself out of desires? I’m betting that it doesn’t feel good closing down your dreams.

This week I want to talk to you and guide you just a little on how to take steps towards making those desires a reality.

Let me introduce you to the five senses reality!

The five senses reality is exactly what it sounds like! We use all of our five senses that we were gifted as human beings to help bring our desire to life.

By doing this, it sends a signal to our brain that we can have our desire and not be threatened by it!

A goal is often created from the cerebral cortex which is the brain’s outermost layer and is responsible for consciousness, thought and emotion to name a few.

The limbic system which is the part of the brain involved in survival behaviours and the primal brain which is also focused on survival and instinct either won’t believe it’s possible for you to achieve your desire or are terrified that it can’t be survived.

For so many people, not believing that they can survive getting their desire is the biggest obstacle to taking action and getting their desire realised!

When you practice using the five senses reality, it allows all parts of the body to get connected and it gives the brain a clear message that you can not only achieve your desire but survive it!

It’s one of my favourite tools and is so powerful.

So let’s give it a go!

When you have five minutes to spare, I invite you to find a quiet space and make yourself comfortable.

Choose one of your desires and say it out loud or write it down. E.g. ‘I want to be in a relationship’.

Now imagine that you are in a relationship, what do you see that lets you know that you have this desire? Close your eyes if it helps and describe or write what you see.

What do you touch or feel?

What do you hear?

What do you taste?

What do you smell?

Don’t panic or worry if you feel blocked by some of the senses i.e. you find you can’t smell anything! This is completely normal and may reveal itself further down the line.

Hopefully, now you have a mostly clear picture of what your desire looks like brought to life! Next, we need to look at…

Belief in your own success

Ask yourself, how successful do you believe you can be at achieving your desire?

What score would you give yourself out of ten?

If you get a score of less than seven, I want you to think about all the times in the past when you have been successful in something similar and list them out.

E.g. ‘I have been in a relationship before’. ‘I have maintained my friendships over the years because I am caring’. ‘I have built up good working relationships because I am confident’.

Then ask yourself the score question again. It’s absolutely fine if you still don’t get a score of seven!

It just means there is a little bit of work to do around you feeling worthy and deserving which is going to be one of my future blogs!

If your score is seven or more, I’d invite you to think about the obstacles that might be getting in your way.

What challenges might come up for you in achieving this desire? What has stopped you from achieving it in the past?

For so many women this can be because of a lack of confidence and/or a lack of time.

Write them down and see if you can come up with one action point to address an obstacle. This could look like carving out small blocks of time on a calendar that are dedicated to you pursuing your desire.

I’m a firm believer that being successful with our desires takes three steps;

Using the five senses reality to help with positive visualisation

Addressing the belief of your success in yourself

And assessing the obstacles

Sometimes when we are getting used to saying yes to our wants and dreams it can help to try on a new identity. This is particularly helpful if you are a person that suffers from low self-esteem or confidence.

In the example I used earlier, if you have been looking for a relationship for some time or have been having relationships that aren’t working you may tell yourself something like ‘there’s something wrong with me’. Or ‘I’m unlovable.

These statements can eventually become a part of you and take on their own personality. Taking on a new identity is one of the ways that we can get around this obstacle.

If you resonate with this, ask yourself what would it feel like for you to take on an identity of ‘there is nothing wrong with me’ or ‘I am truly loveable’?

Choosing a new identity is literally like putting on a new coat that is nothing like what you would usually choose; it will feel strange and awkward, to begin with, but eventually, it will feel natural if you keep at it.

You can even call it your queen coat if that helps you!

It can seem like there are so many other things that take priority or get in the way of us taking action. But taking small steps, just like the ones I’ve listed above can make a huge difference.

Seeing your desire in all of its sensory glory is a pretty big motivator in itself!

Anyway, that’s enough of me waffling on for this week. It’s time to leave you to try out the five senses exercise and let me know in the comments how you get on. What did you experience? What obstacles came up for you? And how are you going to overcome them?

Much love

Lu x

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