Finding Your Centre

Finding your centre

Hey lovelies

How are you all doing this week?

I’ve still been moping around a fair bit, to be honest!  Pregnancy hormones and pelvic pain have been wreaking havoc on my emotions.  

I’ve been deliriously happy and flying as high as a kite one minute and crying about spilled milk the next.  

Experiencing these real swings in moods made me think about a previous blog I did on allowing emotions to run through us; how important it is to do that and to not squash them down or ignore them.   

But it also made me think about being centred, sitting in the still point of an emotion, something I have been distinctly lacking this week!  

I’ve mentioned to you before that anger is one of the emotions that I really struggle to experience fully and I have to make a concerted effort to allow myself to feel it and to remind myself safe that it is a safe and also healthy emotion to experience.  

Third-trimester crankiness has meant that I have been feeling a fair amount of random rage lately that catches me off guard and takes me by surprise.

If I were to hazard a guess where it comes from, some of it is almost certainly hormonal.  But some of it is because my body simply can’t do the things I am used to doing pre pregnancy.  

Severe pelvic pain means I am super slow, I can’t stand for long, I can’t exercise how I want and I generally struggle to get through all of the usual tasks and things I enjoyed pre pregnancy. 

This makes me angry and frustrated.  

At times, it has felt as though the anger is controlling me rather than the other way around so I decided that I needed to complete one of my favourite exercises to help me feel more centred and in control.  

It’s called experiencing emotions as power and it helps me to come into a more balanced and powerful relationship with my emotions; namely my anger. 

Lots of us find our emotions challenging.  

Some of us squash them down and repress them in life because we’ve been conditioned to think that as women, this is the only way to get ahead in business and also in some other areas of life.  

On the contrary, other women completely lose their centers with their emotions; these are the women who you might refer to in your life as the drama queens!  

The exercise I’ve included below will allow you to be able to experience the emotion that you find challenging fully without feeling like it’s controlling you!

It will also allow you to see what happens in yourself and in your life when you try all of the different ways of experiencing your emotions – squashing them, overindulging them, being peaceful with them, and expressing them through movement. 

This practice really helps me to find my centre again when things are getting out of hand; it keeps me balanced and helps me relate to my anger in a healthy way.  

It reminds me that I can feel all of the feels and keep taking action on the things I want in life! 

Think about the emotion that you’ve been struggling with lately; perhaps it’s fear that is holding you back?  Or perhaps you’d like to feel a little more comfortable with experiencing joy?

Whatever emotion it is you find challenging, I invite you to give the exercise a try and see what comes up for you.

Experiencing emotions as power exercise

Step 1 – Find somewhere to sit where there is an open space in front of you and make sure you have a pen and paper handy! Turn to the left and envision the specific emotion that you struggle with.  For me, that’s anger which is the example I’ll use for this exercise.   

Step 2 – Picture your anger to the left, but imagine picturing the anger as if you were repressing it/keeping it small and hidden.  

Step 3 – Write down the answers to these questions:

How does it feel to repress the anger? 

What else do you notice when you repress your anger? 

What happens in your life in general when you repress your anger? 

When you have finished noting these responses down and they feel complete, thank your anger (I know this might seem a little weird but it’s important so you can thank the anger in your head if that feels better!).

Step 4 – Turn to your right. Picture your anger in a dramatic, overexpressed, overindulged way. Imagine that the anger is really strong and that it’s more powerful than you are. 

Step 5  – Write down the answers to these questions:

How does it feel to let that anger be dramatic and rule you? 

What do you notice inside of you when your anger is like this?

What happens to your life when you live with this relationship to your anger? 

When you have finished noting these responses down and they feel complete, thank this version of your anger.

Step 6 – Turn to the center of the space in front of you. Feel your anger and focus on the center of it. Feel all the sensations of your anger, but try not to let it take away your centre, your still point. This is a practice in stillness. 

Step 7  – Write down the answers to these questions:

How does it feel to be still with your anger?

What do you notice inside of you when you relate to your anger this way? 

What happens in your life when you have this relationship to your anger? 

Step 8 – See if you can invite the anger into your body, and make some movement. Express and experience the anger within your body, but still keep your center and try not to become overwhelmed by it. 

Step 9  – Write down the answers to these questions:

How does it feel to move your anger and express it? 

What do you notice inside of you when you express your anger this way? 

What happens in your life when you have this relationship to your anger? 

Step 10 – Note down what you learned from this exercise. 

Using this practice regularly can make such a difference to how you relate to your emotions, particularly the more challenging ones.  

If you’re finding yourself overwhelmed by one or are forcing yourself to repress it, I really encourage you to give the practice a go.  

There is so much power in having the ability to sit in the centre!  

Well that’s all from me this week!  I’d love to hear how the practice went for you; let me know in the comments what you experienced!

Much love

Lu x

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